What type of people are better succeeding?
Ones who get the most done quickly or who know their destination and how to prioritize? In the digital age where speed sells, it’s easy to forget about the most important questions while trying to catch up:
- WHAT goals are you trying to rush and accomplish?
- WHY did you choose those?
- WHERE is the finished line that you are speeding towards?
Plus, knowing the difference between effective versus efficient is very important to your success. Because when trying to get ahead, sometimes you get swept up by the current without realizing that the current isn’t taking you where you actually want to go, or that current isn’t even yours! When you realize that you are in the wrong current and have to go back to the drawing board, you lose time, energy, and even money.
So was it really efficient? If you took the time and research to make plans and tread carefully, wouldn’t it save you all that pain?
Then, what are the habits of effective people? With just 5 habits, you can be one of them.
When challenging situations arise, we often get swept up in the moment and make rash decisions or say something we’ll regret later on. THIS IS REACTIVE.
But why would something that happens occasionally affect us all that much?
Because then the situation controls you rather than you control it. By doing so, you start a chain reaction of not thinking ahead and not thinking ahead means there’s a high chance that you are straying further and further away from your goals and spending time solving the problems you created by not thinking ahead.
The solution? Reflect THEN respond. Take responsibility and make conscious choices about your behavior. That’s how you regain control of the situation. You can’t control anyone’s reactions – just yours.
WHAT DOES YOUR FINISH LINE LOOK LIKE?
To create a clear, achievable and manageable goal, begin with the end in mind. Know how you know when you have achieved it, know how many steps will it take to achieve it and what your main priorities to achieve the goal?
Once you have done that, follow it and stay on it without losing your way. Every step of the way, you must continue to be proactive so you don’t let the current take you where it wants, you swim where you want to go.
PRIORITIZE YOUR PRIORITIES
How do you do that? They are all important, that’s why they are called “priorities.” Well, in a list of priorities, you, your career, family, friends, which is the most important? Second? Third? Fourth? See, you just prioritized your priorities. There are URGENT priorities and IMPORTANT priorities. But then.. there are all the priorities in between that.
The easiest way is to categorize:
- Urgent + Important (Things that put your goal in motion, has a time limit and sets the frames for your goal.)
- Urgent, but not Important (Things with deadlines, but won’t cause your goal to stop to a screeching halt or fall off the cliff)
- Not Important & Not Urgent (Things that will take more time or that will help you achieve your current and maybe future goals)
By putting your priorities into the right category will help you with time management in the long run. Time management by itself focuses on efficiency, but without effective categorizing, it’s easy to lose track of your plans, which leads to straying away from your end goal.
RELATIONSHIPS ARE UNAVOIDABLE
If you are a member of society, and you are going to contribute to that society, interacti with others is definite. Therefore, you have to work on your building your relationships right.
- Aim for a win-win situation. Not everything is win-lose and often, that might create more enemies than friends, and having more enemies isn’t good for your success. Compromise is key.
- Have integrity. For people to want what you have to offer, to listen to what you have to say or to follow your lead, you must have their trust and loyalty. Integrity is invaluable towards achieving your goals and maintaining a healthy emotional and mental balance.
- Listen to understand, not listen to speak. Hear what feedback others have for you, use it to improve and come out stronger than if you only listened to yourself – two or more brains are often better than one.
- Accept and respect others. What they are good at might help you and what they are not as good at might be where you come in and save their day. This leads back to integrity – the persona you show to others is how well they will respond to you.
NO YOU, NO GOALS
Putting in all the time and effort to build yourself up for success, what would it all be for if you forget about the most important factor- YOU. Without proper self care, any effectiveness or efficiencies are useless.
Mental + Emotionally + Spiritually + Physically healthy = A Better You = A Better Tomorrow
To summarize, to succeed in the best way, you need to aim for effectiveness instead of efficiency. To do so, work towards building these habits.
- Be proactive instead of reactive.
- Begin with a clear idea of what achievement looks like. Just like how a ship without a light house won’t know where it’s safe to dock. Or a ship seeing multiple docks won’t know which one is best.
- Priorities your priorities to make the most out of time management.
- Build relationships with a strong, trusting, loyal and respectful foundation. Then, the only way is up.
- To make all your effort worth it, take the time for the MOST URGENT, IMPORTANT Priority – Self-Care
In the end, by taking the harder or longer route, you might end up saving yourself from unnecessary pain, wasted time and avoidable challenges. Effectiveness might be the new efficient after all.